Used transformationally, an apology is not self make-wrong or a sorrowful desire to change the past or a hostile excuse. The essential component in a genuine apology is an authentic promise that whatever is being apologized for shall never again occur. This makes it a particularly powerful intention, which is what successfully reestablishes any broken trust, “repairs the damage” and restores the relationship. Apologies are necessary after any attack that is later found to have been a mistake. In order for all of the energy of an attack and subsequent apology to be fully complete the person being attacked must also transform the experience, if any, of victimization. Understanding how the identity “invited” the attack and then expanding its self-responsibility horizon are what transforms victimization.